Info about Battered Wives
Battered Wives: Enduring Intriguing situations
Existence of battered wives is just a reality. First of all who are these battered wives? They are women who endure maltreatment from their husbands for no fault of theirs. In many cases the inflictor of pain on the wife may not be consistent in his cruelty. The husband might apologize for his misbehavior and even might promise that he wouldn’t repeat his conduct in future. However, with no reason the maltreatment might be triggered by the person who has made a promise that it will not happen. Again there may be an expression of regret and promise not to repeat. However, the pattern continues putting the victim in an intriguing situation.
Often the battered wives are not able to understand the behavior of their partner with clarity and they are not ready to write off the relation as they are willing to hope against the hope. Enduring this type of erratic conduct on the part of the husband is not going to do any good to anybody. The repeated endurance of this confusing situation for a long time makes the women somewhat helpless. It is then we call them battered wives.
One of the questions that we put to the battered wives is why can’t they leave the perpetrators of the pain? They are simply not capable of leaving the wrong doer. This situation is truly intriguing and psychologists have studied the situation and have given us insights into this strange pattern of conduct. The helplessness of the battered wives to leave their wrong doers is very much part of the type of conditioning that makes them incapable of action. The studies conducted on the rats show that the rats which are treated to food and electric shock erratically near the feeding station become so helpless in deciding the meaning of what is happening to them. This makes them perch near the food station without any further attempt at trying to eat anything. This is also the reason for the apparent helplessness of the battered wives.
Is there any remedy for this? Indeed there is. One of the first that has to be considered in the case of all battered wives is the reason behind the husbands’ volatile nature. He himself may be entirely helpless in controlling his erratic nature intermittent with instances of cruelty and affection. It is possible with the help of right diagnosis to find out what is ailing the husband. Once it is found out there are many therapies round the corner which can help him out of his erratic behavior. Once that is done it is possible to address the condition of the battered wives and with proper counseling the battered wives can be brought back to healthy and meaningful existence.
There are many who think that the tales of woes of the battered wives is only hyped by the sentimental media to add sensation to the news. The statistical evidence shows that battered wives are a reality. Their existence is in the urban centers of modern metropolis as well as in the serene villages where life goes on uneventfully.